Messed up my back the other day. Thankfully, it is 90% better today.
Saw the new Madonna movie ‘W.E.’ about King Edward and Mrs. Simpson. If you are an English history buff, I think you will quite like it.
The costumes are gorgeous, and you really end up with quite a sympathetic feeling towards her.
Bravo Madonna for pointing out what no-one else has before. Not sure if it is accurate, but it COULD be, and that is what counts.
Have forgotten THREE different appointments this week AND my friend’s birthday today. Not good.
My Mom says I’m on brain overload.
Do ya think? Gee, between all the details and paperwork involved with building the house, and my friend(s) dying, it MAY be a bit chaotic emotionally right now.
Have brunch tomorrow with some friends. Not really looking forward to it, but it’s an obligation I agreed to without thinking it through carefully.
Pretty much blew the dieting this week. MUST get back on track.
I LIKED feeling my blue jeans were looser.
Twice in the last few months before things got really bad, Bob told me to my face he wanted me to have all of his lovely things.
Bob could barely talk when he evidently dictated a Will to a lawyer a few weeks ago.
And oddly enough, it seems like I’m not mentioned in Bob’s Will — according to his executor and long-time friend Eric, who is also the lawyer’s fiancee.
According to Eric, Bob left it all to him and I wasn’t mentioned, nor were my parents mentioned.
But Bob had also told me that he wanted my parents to have his house, since they paid for all of his radiation and chemotherapy treatments.
I call bulls**** but there’s nothing I can do about it.
People, before you get sick, get a lawyer to properly draw up a Will, and have it notarized with a witness present to aslo sign, and leave things to the people you want things left to.
Or believe me, once you are dead, you’ll have no say, and your intentions will NOT be honored.
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well doesn’t that just bite big time? buggers honey…
hugs, bee
xoxoxooxox
Buggers indeed, dear Bee. Eric manipulated and deceived and thinks he is getting away with it.
Thing is that I’ve found with with karma is that HE will end up being manipluated and deceived with regard to something he cares about.
What goes around ALWAYS comes around, even if we can’t see it.
I’ve never escaped it – and nobody else does either.
Well, krap on a stick! Greed does that to some folks.
Try to enjoy your day. Sending hugs and hope for more improvement on your back…
Thanks Sandy.
Thankfully after the funeral next Wednesday, I’ll never see him again. Good riddance.
Aw, C, I’m sorry for all the legal drama. Such a pain. Went through a bit of the same myself last year, my sister sued her siblings, except, here’s the kicker, my mom is still alive!! Anyway, judge saw through her and we won, but it was terrible to go through.
Rid yourself of toxic people, that’s all I can say.
MaryAnne,
Ugh, I’m sorry you had to go through that – and glad that you won.
I was involved in a lawsuit once in small claims court and it made me lose all respect for the legal system, where facts and truth have no weight versus slimeballs. It cost me a LOT emotionally and financially, and I vowed never to get involved in wanting to be ‘right’ again – it’s just not worth the aggravation.
Avoiding toxic people as soon as possible and insisting on every detail in writing is great advice!
Ugh. Seriously? And it’s not like you’re asking for money. We’re talking personal possessions that he wanted you to have, that no doubt had sentimental meaning between the two of you.
In my opinion, a reputable attorney would have declined the case, citing conflict of interest, since her fiancee was the beneficiary. Even if it’s not required, it’s just good form.
On the forgetfulness, that’s something that I really have an issue with, especially given my previous acumen as opposed to my brain function now. As it’s been explained to me, that’s simply the brain’s response to stress. Just as your body faints to trigger your body to send blood to your brain, your brain suppresses the “little” details while it attempts to process the current stressors.
And you, my dear, certainly qualify as stressed. I’m so sorry that this is happening, and I pray that life will stop kicking you in the butt any day now. You deserve a break!
Shari,
Thank you for that explanation – it certainly makes sense!
You are right, Eric should have declined, but it shows you his character very clearly doesn’t it? Too bad.
Bob had several long term friends who were absolutely wonderful to him both during his life and in the three months preceeding his death, making the effort of going to see him dailly at the hospital.
I am sure that he would have wanted each of them to ahve something to remeber him by. He was such an appreciative and grateful and thoughtful man.
It’s a shame his real wishes were just ignored because he was too ill to be able to communicate clearly anymore and could be manipulated/pressured when he only had a week or so left to live..
I hope your week starts improving, it definitely sounds as though you need a pick me up.
Silver,
You are sweet – thank you! I Hopefully by March, things will slow down a bit, but it may be wishful thinking.
I may have to just take 2 days out of every week and refuse to schedule appointments on those afternoons. Truly keep boundaries on those days, and not squeeze things in. It doesn’t matter if everything doesn’t happen at warp speed. Slow but sure will be just as good.
Awwwwwwwwww Cinderella, so sorry to hear that about Bob’s Will!!
I am sure all you care about is to have something to remember him by. You are right tho, Eric will not rest easy from his deceit, if he has a conscience.
Big hugs to you!!
xoxo